TLD #12 - Love lets the other win

Sorry with the tardiness on TLD's however I have been out of town for work and then just trying to play catch up. While I was away my hubby and I did communicate a lot via texting and calls as time permitted.

So here it goes!!

TLD #12 - Demonstrate love by willingly choosing to give in to an area of disagreement between you and your spouse. Tell them you are putting their preference first.

On Wednesday my hubby took the day off to take the kids to school and head to the ss office to replace his missing ss card. So he called me and I advised him to take his birth certificate and passport just to ensure that he the right documentation so he could take care of it. Well not long after talking to him I receive a text that he left the documents on the top of the car and drove off. WELL in the past I would have blown a gasket - yelled, cursed, got mad BUT now what would that do he already felt bad, I was miles away and couldn't help so I just calmly told him go to the office take care of what you needed and hopefully it would turn up.

On my way home from the conference he again texted me that he couldn't find it anywhere - I kept my cool and told him that once I got home we would figure out what to do with about a lost passport. Within all of my excitement from getting home, unpacking and eager to see my babies I didn't even yell or get mad I just told him that we would figure it out - can't change it. So as we load into my car to go get the babies he yells look at that - laying by the side of the road was passport just a few houses down the street. SEE me not losing it and allowing him the space to do his own things worked itself out!!!
I feel I put his hurt feelings before my selfish reaction!

Back to reality

Yesterday when I got home it was a world wind of being so happy and excited to be home. My hubby, my kids, MY BED just a great feeling to be home from a business trip.

HOWEVER getting back to regular life can be a little overwhelming. Home life is good (a little bit behind) laundry, grocery shopping, odds and ends and the best part catching up with the family. When we went to go get the kids from school it was like they doubled in size (over the 4 days I was gone). BUT both of them ran into my arms and gave me big kisses and hugs - made me just grin from heart to head!!! Time apart does have the heart growing founder!

Work on the other hand WELL that is another story. In my line of work I am the only one that can do my work so when I am away everything just piles up and waits for me. So as I walk into my office I am overloaded with emails, mail, packages, insurance items - you name it I need to get it done and of course it was all due yesterday!! Today was one of those days that you have so many items to do you don't know where to start so you don't. I did the easier items that I knew I could quickly get through and off of my TO DO pile. Then throw in a claims review and employee evaluation I didn't even have enough time to focus. All of a sudden it was almost 5 o'clock and my hubby is calling me I FORGET to go get the babies - luckily he was able to get them for me and I neatly crammed everything in a drawer and left for the day.

On top of all of that I still need to catch up on TLD, my side business I am starting up and get ready for a jam packed holiday weekend.

So hopefully I can conquer all of my tasks tomorrow!!!

Do you have those crazy "back to reality" moments?

SHRM Conference

As I sit here in my hotel room all I can think about is getting home to my bed. I am currently in Las Vegas for the SHRM Conference. There is so much to do and see and it is exciting to get more knowledge and networking for my career! HOWEVER to attend the conference I need to be away from my kids and hubby PLUS a lot of WALKING and eating (I will talk about this later). I am sitting here with my feet up DUE to walking around all today/tonight. The conference is being held at the Las Vegas Convention Center  and the Hilton. That equals a lot of walking from one room to another and back again. With the convention jam-packed I have not be able to attend the gym as much as I have liked (why would the gym in Las Vegas only be open from 6 am to 6 pm - ANYONE???) so the PAIN is coming in full force. I am starting to look for an establishment that can do acupuncture place. I am willing to try anything to keep this pain at bay.

With the pain I also want to ensure that I keep my weight in check, lose more weight along this path, and keep up with my exercise regime.

WITH THAT I have to confess about the GREAT food experiences I have been enjoying while here in Vegas. First off not all of the food was good but I would say ALL of it was bad for you. First I shared the Volcano Nachos and a margarita with a fellow board member at Margartiville, then the buffet - expensive and not good yet I still tried almost 3 different desserts, a salad at this nice cafe in the Hilton and then the BEST yet - Stripsteak at Mandalay Bay. OMG the food there was amazing; first they start you our with sampler french fries :) yummy, then a wedge salad for an appetizer,... the main course consisted of all 6 of us sharing the following side dishes: jalapeno cream corn, spinach souffle, roasted artichoke, potato-leek pancakes and truffle mac n cheese YES I tried them all. That went with my butterfly cut medium well done filet Mignon - yummy!!! To finish my day we even shared a cheesecake. So needless to say I have a lot of working out to do. I will be heading to the gym first thing in the morning and hope to get a little time in front of the pool as well.

So here is to me ENSURING that tomorrow and as often as possible (can't say always or forever) I keep up the good eating, working out and most of all BALANCE in my life.

Crazy Week

Well this week I think I have been running around like a chicken with its head cut off (yes this is true I have seen it in real life before).  I have been extremely busy at work (thank you LORD), I have been successful on building my side business portfolio with a few clients (If you are interested I can assist you with Marketing, Human Resources, Equal Employment, Finances, Event Planning - just a few trades that I have picked up in my work and personal life), baking cupcakes for my wonderful (soon to be) sister in law, fitting in 5 straight nights of working out (sweating big time) and now packing for my business trip and enjoying a weekend packed full of family time (starting with helping my brother in law and his wife move into their first home, a family pool party for relatives coming in from New Zealand and then another pool bday party).

BUT I have found a few things that are keeping me going: ON TOP of all of the above weekly items I have decided to scale back on my soda in take I have not had one sip/drink anything of soda in 5 days. So welcome to my favorite new drink homemade tea thanks of my Mr. Coffee tea maker - YUMMY YUMMY.

I have been brewing up a batch every few days and even the hubby is drinking it up. I was able to get the Lipton tea bags on clearance at Ralph's (the one by our house is closing) so I am stocked up for sure!!!!



But I couldn't end this wonderful FAST week (that ended with a wonderful facial) with out showing off my two wonderful babies!!! They both love horseback riding and she just had to dress up so cute for pony ride day at school!!

TLD #11 - Love cherishes

Ok so I am going to be HONEST here - I did not do the dare on the day I was suppose to do it - YIKES yes I know I am sorry. I was extremely busy.

So I just skipped a day and here it is.

Well for this dare today the way I showed him that "I cherished him" was stopping everything when I walked in to the house and told him I love him and gave him a kiss and hug!!!
TLD #11 - What need does your spouse have that you could meet today? Can you run an errand? Give a back rub or foot massage? Is there housework you could help with? Choose a gesture that says, "I cherish you" and do it with a smile.

Some of the items that I cherished in this section:


- joining two lives together as one.
- when you look at your mate you are looking at a part of you.
- Nourish and cherish the love of you life.

Unstoppable

Have you ever had one of those days that you woke up just knowing that is was going to be a great day?

Well today is/was that day. I woke up not feeling like I could stay in bed for at least another 5 minutes, my daughter woke up on the right side of the bed, and getting ready and out the door wasn't even a struggle. Work went by extremely fast and I was SUPER busy. I even had a vendor take me to lunch (you can't beat that - introduced them to Rainforest Cafe love their salads).

Also, I mentioned a while ago that I work is not doing so hot but I am trying to make the positive out of everything and I think that is coming to. I am looking into starting up a little side work. MARKETING - hey that is what my degree is in!!!

I have already started working with 3 people and getting everything going is just wonderful, exciting, and you get that anticipation flutter in your stomach because you just want to MAKE everything work and be a success for everyone else too!

Today I was UNSTOPPABLE. Still grinding away at 1030 and on top of that stuck with my exercise routine!!! I can't wait to have more of them!


How do you feel when you have an UNSTOPPABLE day?

TLD #10 - Love is unconditional

Day 10 already, I love the DARES and looking deeper into our relationship.

Things in this section that cut my eye:

 - love is not determined by the one being loved but rather by the one choosing to love.
-  Agape love - true love (ahh my honeys tattoo says that with my name )


TLD #10 - Do something out of the ordinary today for your spouse - something that proved to you, him and both that your love is based on your choice and nothing else. Demonstrate love to them for the sheer joy of being their partner in marriage.

Today I came home and whipped a nice dinner for my honey and while doing it I started putting the laundry away (typically he puts away the clothes). Dinner I cook every night however tonight I went a little more and made chicken Parmesan over noodles and sauce with a nice salad to go with it.


Is anyone else following this and doing the Dares as well? If so how is it going?

Longest Day of the Year and HOTTEST yet


Sunglass and Hat day at school

Wishing today I was able to stay home in either: an air conditioned house, laying by the pool or spending time at the river. BUT nope I was at work and the babies were at school (today being the 1st day of summer it was wear your favorite hat and sunglasses day).


To start out with I have commented much on my work life but the economy has hit us just like everyone else. With that there have been layoffs and reassignment of duties - FIRST I want to say that YES I am very thankful that I still have my job and I love it so much - I just hope that things turn around soon so we can all get our much deserved pay raises, increases, and reductions back. BUT N E WAYS that story leads me to the fact that I rarely leave my office/desk that has no windows to even see the enjoyment of the day


Such cute little "hams"

SO today when I got off of work I raced to get my babies and we were in the house getting in our bathing suits, filling up the plastic pool (that has been stored for these occasions) and mommy laying out for about 1/2 hour!! - ahh this is what LIFE is about. Relaxing, catching some fun and hearing and WATCHING my babies enjoy the first day of summer. They had a blast.

So as I sit here after sweating throughout my workout (let me just tell you working out in your garage during the summer REALLY brings on a sweat - I hope that just means more calories burnt) and looking back on my day it was a GREAT day. We had no fighting, no whining (ok just a little but they are young), a great dinner BBQ'd (homemade taco burgers oh so yummy) and me feeling that I can actually fall asleep tonight is just ahhhhhhhhhhhhhh!!!!

How did you cool off on this HOT longest day of the year?





TLD #9 - Love makes good impressions

Greet one another with a kiss of love - 1 Peter 5:14


Stuff I liked in this section:

- being humble and gracious enough to address even your enemies with kindness.
- When someone communicates that they are glad to see you, your personal sense of self-worth increases. You feel more important and valued.
- Love is a choice.

TLD #9 - Think of a specific way you would like to greet your spouse today. Do it with a smile and with enthusiasm. Then determine to change your greeting to reflect your love for them.

I did it. To be honest we try to greet each other with a kiss every time we leave, come home, see each other, say goodbye. We love to love.

 PS - My hubby did kiss me when he came in today. I am not going to remind him about the blog tonight because he has been working very hard on our side business and has not slept very much on top of that. :)

TLD #8 Love is not jealous

Yikes jealousy I know this first hand that it comes in many forms and with reading this section it sums it all up. It isn't just your feelings toward another person or their affectionate it is much bigger.

Here are a few key points that I took in within this section:

- Two forms: legitimate - jealousy based upon love and illegitimate - jealously based upon envy.
- Because love is not selfish and puts others first it refuses to let jealousy in.
- A loving spouse doesn't mind that the other is better at something, having more fun or getting more applause.

TLD #8 - Determine to become your spouse's biggest fan and to reject any thoughts of jealousy. Take yesterday's negative list and BURN it. Then share with your spouse how glad you are about a success he recently enjoyed

Rejoice with those who rejoice, and weep with those who weep. (Romans 12:15)

Did I do the dare?? Yes I did. Destroying the list isn't the hard part at all! I told my honey that I was so proud of him for picking up two extra side jobs that brought in almost $1000. It helped us a lot!!! I love him for succeeding in our lives and business.



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TLD #6 Love is not irritable & TLD #7 Love believes the best

Sorry for the delay on these but I really wanted to focus on our family and having a great weekend get a way!!

TLD #6 - Choose today to react to tough circumstances in your marriage in loving ways instead of with irritation.

Well let me say with Saturday first started out I did not due to well with this. I was sick and started the morning out in Urgent care then raced home to finish up with the stuff before we left. As we get out the door to head for our weekend getaway a few things didn't go to plan: hotel NO early check in, tattoo shop wouldn't give Tyson his tattoo, we drove and drove seemed to be forever, I was hungry, then Tyson picks a VEGAN place really??? Okay we said some harsh words I ran to the bathroom and while I was in there I decided there has to be a better way!!! When I came out I told him I was very sorry that I had got upset/mad and the rest of the weekend I was going to go with after his lead NO COMPLAINING, no bad comments just go with the flow - I think I did a great job with that!!!! Woo wee I was glad I was able to finally get to accomplish my TLD #6.

TLD #7

Things that I like about this section:
- "Appreciation Room"
- Everyone fails and has areas that need growth.
- We have all sinned.
- Love chooses to believe the best about people. It gives them the benefit of the doubt.

The Dare: Write down positives and negatives about your spouse. Place them both aside (this will come up on another day). Pick a positive attribute from the first list and thank your spouse for having this characteristic.

For this one I did not the challenge but will hold it until it is needed in the future. But one of the POSITIVE attributes about my spouse is his ability to always being affectionate to me and showing his love to me!!! This characteristic is one of the MAIN reasons we got married and stay happily married!!!



Father's Day Weekend Getaway

I first want to say HAPPY FATHER's day to my wonderful hubby Tyson and the greatest father to our children. Thank you so much for everything that you are, that you do and what you stand for!!!

HAPPY Father's day to all of the great fathers of the present, past and future!!!!!

This weekend we went a way for a nice little get a way. We first planned on taking the Metro link down to Oceanside and spend the night, however due to me not feeling so well we thought it was better for us to drive (great decision by the way).

We headed down to Oceanside and took in allot of sights including the ocean (of course), different shops and even Camp Pendleton (very proud of my honey on this), and we drove even down to Encinitas. Where we tried for the first time vegan food at Lotus Cafe (umm I have to say interesting).
Let me back up a little bit here. First I am SUPER planner AND I generally like to pick what we do BUT I decided on this trip (other then picking the hotel) I was not going to make any decisions or comments.  
So beginning with the drive down Highway 101 and Lotus Cafe it was the DAD's weekend for everything, so I took the backseat of relaxing and letting him pick it all.



After our vegan lunch we headed down the main street just browsing the shops and little craft fairs as we went. Something that we did notice is that fact that people LOVE their dogs a lot. I counted about 10 pet related shops on that 4 block walk - crazy to me. Almost back to our car we saw a yogurt shop Berry Happy Yogurt and we stopped in for some GREAT self serve yogurt and watched a little of Wall E while we ate as well.


We walked back to our car for the ride back to our hotel. We stayed in Oceanside (originally there because the Metro station was less then a 1 mile away). We were hoping for a nap but instead just relaxed and watched TV for a while. I have to say that La Quinta hotel was pretty nice and modern (expect for the lack of pool/spa but I guess being so close to the ocean??). After our relaxing few hours we took honey for his Dad day dinner and shopping ( I had planned to get his wedding ring tattooed (he wanted that) I called ahead found the place, times, cost, etc.. and even stopped by the time we arrived and everything was fine we made our appointment came back and they said they wouldn't do it - bummed my honey out). We took hubby to Karl Struss Brewery - say YUM YUM.  Honey got one of their SEASONAL wheat beers and a HUGE cheeseburger which he loved. I then took over the driving and we headed to the Carlsbad Outlets (wait just right there NO I didn't buy anything this trip was all for him). He decided he wanted a pair of shoes so off we went. He got a nice pair of Skechers!! After walking around and letting the babies ride on the train we headed back to the hotel. We watched movies and Extreme Couponing (have you seen that show CRAZY). We all went to bed and didn't wake up until 8 am woo hoo!!! We ran to get the free continental breakfast and then we headed home. Before we got home we couldn't finish our weekend without a trip to Tom's Farm.  Tyson got the perfect drink for today Dad's Root beer :) !! What a great end to a wonderful get a way weekend. We really need to do more of them.

TLD #5 - Love is not rude

Today's dare is interesting because I get to also do this dare with my hubby. So the dare is:


TLD#5 - Ask your spouse to tell you 3 things that cause him/her to be uncomfortable or irritated with you. You must do so without attacking them or justifying your behavior. This is from their perspective ONLY.
Again here are my favorite items in this section BUT please read for yourself because there are so many things that make you say - wow I do that, Yikes they do that, really you can do that, that is why I do it, etc...

- genuine love minds its manners
- "It is well with the man who is gracious" (Psalm 112:5)
- Two main reasons why people are rude: ignorance and selfishness
- 3 golden rules  1) - Guard the Golden Rule - Treat your mate the same way you want to be treated (Luke 6:31) 2) - No double standards 3) Honor requests

The Dare -
Hubby said about wifey: Hopefully Tyson will write on this when he gets home tonight

Wifey said about hubby: 1) timing - sometimes his timing is off (defending, sticking up, expressing his feelings not at the correct time). 2) Not telling the FULL truth on simple things 3) not taking an active roll in the money management of our household.

TLD # 4 - Love is thoughtful

Sorry about the lateness on the blog but I have been under the weather and trying to get as much sleep as possible which is not going well because I was up and at work at 430 am.

But I DID do the dare yesterday I just didn't write about - so here it goes.


TLD #4 - Contact your spouse during the business of the day. Have no agenda other then asking how he or she is doing and if there is anything that you can do for them.
I called my honey during his work day - generally we just text. And I do have to say that Tyson and I both do this throughout the day via text so this dare was great to change it up. I called my hubby and as soon as he answers the guys are making fun of him BUT he weathered the snickering and stayed on the phone with me. We just said I love you and off we went for our day. It was nice to hear his voice and just to hear the the I love you.

TLD #3 Love is not selfish

Woo wee - I love to shop!! This Dare is a great one.

As we progress in this journey (and me feeling better) I am excited for what the next DARE is going to be. This dare challenges us not to be SELFISH something that has been within us since birth.

Things that I loved reading in this section:
"does not seek its own" (1 Corinthians 13:5)
Loving couples - the ones who are enjoying the full purpose of marriage - are bent on taking good care of the other flawed human they get to share life with.
Love leads to inner joy.
TLD#3 Dare

Whatever you put your time, energy, and money into will become more important to you. It's hard to care for something you are not investing in. Along with restraining from negative comments, buy your spouse something that says, "I was thinking of you today."


Well yesterday my hubby went in for his annual check up with the doctors. He was telling the doctor about some of our recent family health issues and she stated that he should maintain a very healthy diet and exercises routine. Tyson then called me and stated that he would like my help on getting him off of soda. So with that thought I went and bought him TONS of bottled waters, Gatorade's, etc... I want to support him in what he wants to do and I wanted him to know that "I was thinking of him today."

TLD Day#2

Well today I woke up feeling more miserable then yesterday - this cold is hitting me very hard. I pray that my babies and hubby do not get it.

So today is Tuesday which means that it is my hubby's long day. He goes to his normal career day then he goes and takes care of our side business (pool cleaning). So usually Tuesday is a very long and hard day for him.

This is leading in to Day #2 Dare:

In addition to saying nothing Negative to your spouse again today, do at least one unexpected gesture as an act of kindness.
Gentleness
Helpfulness
Willingness
Initiative
As I fell in and out of sleep today I was thinking about how I could show kindness to my hubby today. So I did the only think I could think of - I put all of the clean dishes away, I reloaded the dishwasher, I finished the laundry, I sprayed the house with Lysol, and I didn't bug him with numerous calls/texts throughout the day. I hope this will help him when he returns from a long hard day providing for us.

On top of kindness I can truly say that I didn't have a negative thought or words to say about or to my husband today. ,

So as day 2 comes to an end (yes it is coming to an end at 7pm because the babies are with my mom and I am still exhausted) I hope and pray that I wake up feeling 100% better, the babies and my hubby don't get what ever I have, and that this DARE proves to be one of the best things for our marriage.

TLD Day #1

This morning I was sitting with my Kindle frantically trying to read what Day #1 dare would be. I got caught up in the first chapter leading to it. It had many words of encouragement and things that I catch myself doing OR things that I didn't even think about.

 "Patience is where love meets wisdom." - Patience helps you give your spouse permission to be human. Patience, however makes us wise.
To me this is just a start of this great adventure. Sometimes I get STUBBORN to change. I get use to a situation, a person, a thought and it makes it hard to see the other side or even understand the other side.

Within just the 1st chapter it is helping me to have a better understanding of myself and our relationship.

So as I get to the first dare I am asking myself WHY am I doing this?? Well I think that marriage like anything else in life should be worked on/with to enhance and grow with the changes (yikes yes changes). Also, I would say that the normal SANITY of LIFE has sidetracked us from the fun loving easy going DINK's that we once were. I feel that the everyday tasks and responsibilities has prohibited me from actively making an effort EVERYDAY. So on top of that I am also a believer if it isn't broken don't fix it. So my personality has always been working on the relationships/things that are not going well/right. Well our marriage is good, great, loving so I didn't spend too much time perfecting it. So with this task I want to stop putting my marriage on the back burner of life because this is MY LIFE.

So TLD Day #1 dare:

Demonstrate patience and to say NOTHING negative to your spouse at all.

Did I accomplish this? - YES WOO HOO I did.

Did anything happen today to cause anger toward your mate? Were you tempted to think disapproving thoughts and to let them out in words? YES - once today. A while ago my hubby asked if he could help me in anyway to reach my workout goal. I told him to allow me the time daily 30 - 60 minutes UNITERRUPTED by the kids so I could accomplish my daily goal. WELL tonight as I am excersing to "Keeping Up the with Kardansians" what do I hear two little ones opening/closing the door when they were suppose to be sleeping. Where is my hubby??? Well he is in our room door closed on the internet. Instead of getting upset at him I just called for him nicely and asked if he could put them to sleep. I DID not take the opportunity to yell at him, or ask WHAT WERE YOU DOING, no I just simply asked him to put them back to sleep and I continued on with my workout!! I know a small thing BUT still proud of myself for having patience and not saying anything due to me being upset.

On to Day two :)

PS - I had started this quest that I was going to do this by myself BUT ummmm I forgot my hubby follows my blog so tonight we talked and we decided that we would do this Love Dare together.

Has anyone else done The Love Dare? 

Maybe you can join us on this journey!!!

The Love Dare

Have you heard of The Love Dare?? Well today at church there were guest speakers and the topic was - If your marriage was a movie.

It was based on relationships and how BOTH of you can make a better, happy, successful marriage. As they were talking I was astonished on HOW much they said that I was doing, or my husband was doing and how I felt about things.

With that my dear friend recommended this book The Love Dare.

So since I love to blog about my life this will start being the newest installments into my life. I will name them TLD #whatever day it is. Now it is suppose to be 40 days of this - I will STATE right here, right NOW that I will do that: for myself, for my hubby, for our marriage, for our future, for our faith HOWEVER it might not happen day after day (only because I am sometimes out of town for work - other then that I will be religious about this). But this hopefully will turn it into a lifetime of success.

So hear is to the rest of our lives of making sure our relationship is as strong as it can be, my love for him unstoppable.

Here is a brief description if anyone else is interested in joining in on this journey:
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The #1 New York Times best seller. More than 1.5 million copies in print.



Unconditional love is eagerly promised at weddings, but rarely practiced in real life. As a result, romantic hopes are often replaced with disappointment in the home. But it doesn’t have to stay that way.



The Love Dare, as featured in the popular new movie Fireproof (from the makers of Facing the Giants), is a 40-day challenge for husbands and wives to understand and practice unconditional love. Whether your marriage is hanging by a thread or healthy and strong, The Love Dare is a journey you need to take. It’s time to learn the keys to finding true intimacy and developing a dynamic marriage. Take the dare!



About the Author

Alex Kendrick is associate media pastor at Sherwood Baptist Church in Albany, Georgia. He helped establish Sherwood Pictures in 2003 and has directed and co-written each of its films: Flywheel, Facing the Giants, and Fireproof, playing the lead male role in those first two productions. Alex has appeared on ABC, CNN, FOX News, American Family Radio, The Glenn Beck Show, Janet Parshall’s America, and many other national programs to discuss his award-winning work and ministry. He lives in Albany with his wife and five children.





Stephen Kendrick is a senior associate pastor of preaching at Sherwood Baptist Church in Albany, Georgia. He helped establish Sherwood Pictures in 2003 and has served as co-writer and producer for each of its films: Flywheel, Facing the Giants, and Fireproof. Stephen has spoken about his work on ABC World News Tonight and CNN and in The Washington Post and American Profile magazine among others. Currently earning a master of divinity degree from New Orleans Baptist Theological Seminary, he lives in Albany with his wife and three children.

Sweating to the Hellcats

Well I am just returning from our garage after a 55 minute workout on the elliptical and I feel great but a little SWEATY.

Back track just a little bit I was reading my past post from July 5th, 2010 where my last line was I am off to lose my last 15 lbs - well guess what I am finally 5 lbs down!! It has only taken me almost 1 year to get there and I think what I am doing is finally working.

First I workout at least 3 -5 times a week - I utilize spinning classes, different workout sessions (via groupon - just ordered my pole dancing workout coupon in Upland), walking, workout DVD's, and my favorite is the elliptical. Why the elliptical?? It is the only time I allow myself to watch my recorded shows. So tonight I was working out to Hellcats - and I drank 3 bottle waters and have sweat rolling down my back.

Here is the thing - I am not a sweater at all. My hubby will sweat like no other - I go to spinning classes and everyone around me has puddles of sweat - me maybe a sweat line around my forehead. The only class I have ever really sweated in was HOT YOGA (don't like it at all).

So here it to continuing having sweat roll down my back and hopefully that last 10 lbs melt off in the next 3 weeks (that would make it 1 exact year).

So tired

Thank HEAVENS the weekend is upon us. This week has been a very long one - I am exhausted and ready for 8 o'clock to roll around for my babies to go bed and then I can fit in a workout then hit the hay.

This week was my LONG week at work. Working everyday and a few nights until very late and throw in there the making of items for Teacher's Appreciation week at my babies school, working out 4 nights so far this week = one tired mom/wife/worker.

Cupcakes for the teachers
I think this is a repeat: But here is what we did this week for Teacher Appreciation Week:

Monday - Homemade Cards
Tuesday - Homemade card around a drink
Wednesday - Homemade dessert - cupcakes
Thursday - Chips/Salsa
Friday - paper cut flowers and Victoria Secret body spray

Times this all by 2 kids and 2 teachers = mass appreciation, MASS coordination on mommy's part.

Well as I just took a break from writing to go give my babies a hug, kiss and say prayers I am off to work out. This past week I lost 1 lb and have more to go - wish me weight loss luck :)

Appreciation... Thankful Thursdays

Today I am so thankful for so many reasons: health, happiness, a full house, a job, faith, the future!! I work so hard to ensure that I GIVE to everyone. From my babies, hubby, family, friends, work, volunteer work and so on YET sometimes I don't think I get any appreciate in return. YES I do know it is about GIVING and not receiving HOWEVER today I was hit hard with the hurt stick and an unappreciated moment.

The mornings are the toughest for me. Trying to get me and the two kids up, showered, dressed, teeth brushed and out of the door by 7 am isn't the easiest or funniest thing to do EVERYDAY but I do get it done. I have learned that if I wake up about 30 minutes earlier and allow for them to be a little bit more relaxed in the morning it weathers for a much better morning and day. HOWEVER today meant asking nicely, asking nicely again then the YELLING comes just to get them to listen. This morning my little girl in the middle of her NOT listening and then me yelling turned around put her hands on her hips and said MOMMY don't yell at me. I kindly told her mommy would not yell at you if you listened THEN wait for it - she turned to me again and said I don't like you mom. At this point I hit a brick wall of emotions. Right there right then I broke down and cried.

With that comment what else was I suppose to do: I felt - this is my daughter, one of the reasons that I work to have them in a great school, my joy, my future, I clean,bake,shop,read, listen, talk to, bath, the list goes on and she tells me that. I cracked. I cried. I walked away. After a brief moment I went back to her and told her that wasn't nice and mommy loves her very much and would like it if she would listen so I didn't have to yell BUT no matter what I loved her and liked her.

With that though the show most go on. I picked up all of our items for the day, put on sweaters and loaded them into the truck. While driving to school I had so many emotions running through my head but all I could do was concentrate on being okay, getting them to school safely.

That moment was heart wrenching and just plain upsetting BUT I have to think that she does care and love me BECAUSE alot of the time she is caring and helpful.

We pull up to school and she holds my hand and talks up a storm like nothing ever happened. I carry my bag of groceries into school (this week was Teacher Appreciation week: Monday hand made card, Tuesday a drink and note, Wednesday homemade cupcakes, Thursday potluck and Friday a flower and present - wish I had an appreciation switch when I needed it :) ) and hope the day will be great.

So with all of this I want to ensure that EVERYONE knows that I appreciate anything and everything that they do and that they are!!

I hope that we all say thank you, your welcome, please and that you LOVE them when ever you can.

Who do you appreciate?

Are you appreciated?

This is normal... right

As I sit waiting for my pedal spin class to start tonight my mind starts racing about everything. And in my opinion I think all of these things that I think about and do are normal: (and I think about all of this throughout my class as well - keep in mind it is only 1 hour but still).

  • That I buy new gym clothes BUT don't want to wear them to work out because they are going to get all sweaty
  • That I am working out feeling great so I treat myself to an ICE CREAM (I did workout for an hour)
  • That just last week my little boy had two sad face days (he only went to school three days)
  • That I am so cheap I dyed my hair back dark and haven't gone back in 12 weeks
  • That I feel cleansed every time I drink water (so I drink water after eating 1/2 of my ice cream - I feel that I didn't even eat that ice cream !)
  • That I go and spend $100 on clothes for my kids but I put back that clearance shirt at Target for the SECOND time
  • That I have a stock pile of groceries in my garage - yet I still have to grocery shop weekly
  • Side note - The girls in front of my at spinning sweat craziness and I do not - why is that because I KICKED my own butt tonight ????
  • I BURP - and A LOT - there I said it - it is true and normal, right?????
  • Sex is not a workout for me (seriously this is normal, right?????)

This is just the SMALL list of things I was thinking about during my workout session. This type of thinking is my normal. But you know what else I learned this weekend is people do go through and think craziness just like I do. Just this past weekend I had an AMAZING TIME. We went to the Tim McGraw concert at Glen Helen and it was all couples. Most of us have young children so to have an ADULT only evening out just PRICELESS. We all were able to let loose and have fun - most of us had a little a lot to drink and talked, shared and learned a lot. One of the mothers/woman has a young son that is just a handful (oh thank heavens that I am not alone), another mother has a little girl - light of their life (oh I get that) but a night out with no responsibilities makes everything dandy, another mother she has an older little girl who is a spit fire (OH YEAH I GET THIS) and for all of us to have fun, chat and share experiences just made the night even more memorable.

As I look over my life and my daily rants and raves I wouldn't have it any other way (okay well I would like to have more money and a house in the neighborhood I like) but all in all I enjoy my sanity life!!!

THIS IS ALL NORMAL, right????

Coming Clean

Woo wee I have been thinking of this Journey that I am on. It has its ups and downs, good times and bad times, rich moments and poor moments, I feel that you learn by experience and I have been doing a lot of living in my short 30ish life.

I have always been an OPEN book - I say and do things as I feel them AND yet with this blog I am limiting myself in my expressions due to how others might feel about it. These are my FEELINGS, my thoughts, my ideas and I should be able to COME CLEAN as I see fit.

I like to think that the older I get: the more I learn, the more I take it, the MORE I see others views (even if I don't want to), the more I open up to the possibility of me being wrong .

Life seems to put people in your life when you need them and take them out when you might not see it at first - but don't need them anymore either. Here are a few QUOTES that I love.

 

“People come into your life and people leave it... you just have to trust that life has a road mapped out for you.” - Orlando Bloom


" And you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.”  - John 8:32

  “Don't cry because it's over. Smile because it happened.”

“Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind.”

- Dr. Seuss


“A real friend is one who walks in when the rest of the world walks out.” - Walter Winchell


“Time goes by so fast, people go in and out of your life. You must never miss the opportunity to tell these people how much they mean to you.”


“Have the courage to say no. Have the courage to face the truth. Do the right thing because it is right. These are the magic keys to living your life with integrity.” - W. Clement Stone

 

I feel that these quotes help me get through my day and my life. Regardless of what happens as long as I stay truthful to myself, my hubby, my kids, my friends, my family and my LORD everything else will fall in place.

 

Let me tell you that I am not a idol person who sits around and just hopes something will happen NO WAY I am a go getter, a CONTROL FREAK (really??), planner YET at this point in my life I have decided that I need to look to a higher power to help me through this passage in my life. I am old enough and wise enough to know that miracles do happen as long as I let them.

I am open for the possibility of more miracles or happiness and I am going to let it happen. I am going to let myself STRESS less and ENJOY more.

 

THERE I CAME CLEAN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

Do you have something to come clean about?  What are you learning at your age??




Wise words from a great friend

I was talking to my BFF today and she gave me a little insight about how to improve my BLOG. As everyone knows I am trying to see how I can have a side business, extra business, etc...

One of the things that I BELIEVE in greatly is my family, my friends, myself, my faith and ENDLESS OPEN possibilities.

I am taking her advice that I need to always tell the TRUTH and keep everyone updated on this SIMPLY SANITY LIFE: what I am doing, what I am thinking, what I want to do, how I am doing it, etc...

I am writing this blog to express myself FULLY. I hope that this adventure can touch just one person as much as it is touching me to write it.

I am learning to have "less control" on everything. I want to enjoy more and stop stressing on the items that I cannot and should not be "controlling"

On this quest I do have a favor to ask - if you don't mind please follow my blog, share my blog, comment on my blog. I will forever be grateful for anything and everything you can do!!1


Keep trying until you succeed - veggies that is!!!

So not only is my life CRAZY you also get to mix in two kiddos that give me GRIEF over almost everything - including eating their veggies. I try (and sometimes) succeed with introducing them. I have pureed them, steamed them, hid them, covered them ranch/cheese you name it I have tried it.

Our son well he will make himself throw up on the spot the instant that the veggie hits his mouth. GROSS yet we keep going. Now our daughter she will eat anything and everything (except meat - already a vegetarian) sometimes she does it just because her big brother wont.

WELL I am so HAPPY because last night I tried something new - QUINOA. It is fabulous and both kids ate it.

Quinoa - Fried Rice style with veggies
So here it is!!

Cooking directions:

- bowl 2 cups water to 1 cup Quinoa (about 10 - 15 minutes)
- in an additional skillet dice up and saute (with Pam) - garlic salt, pepper and a little low salt soy sauce

                 - bell peppers
                 - leeks
                 - onions
                 - celery
                 - peas

Once the Quinoa is done mix it in to the veggie skillet and stir. I then added a little more Low Salt Soy Sauce and BANG you get your kids and hubby to finally eat everything!!!!

So finally success!!!